Gift Policy

 
Give me a book that has changed your life. Write your name on it. I will treasure it. If you haven’t got a book that has changed your life then go to the library and find one.  I would like to grow old with a shelf of books with names in them. 
I dislike receiving gifts. I have lots of good reasons for this, but they might come from some deep brain flaw rather than good thinking.  I’m know that my dislike of gifts makes life harder for people I care about, so I want to look into it more.   With this in mind I’m trying to be more open to gifts.
If you get me a gift then I will enjoy the act of gift giving and accept it with a happy smile. I will feel touched. I will remember the act long after the event. I may immediately give the gift to a charity shop if it turns out I didn’t have any use for it, but I can do that while still feeling really quite touched.
If you would like to get me a gift that I will enjoy in its own right, then I’ve tried to work at some ideas that will help:
  • Give me a book that has changed your life. Write your name on it. I will love it.
  • If you have already given me a book that has changed your life, or you don’t feel you know me well enough, then I have an Amazon Wish list that you can find here.
  • I check it pretty often and try to make sure there are ideas that are less than £5, £10, and £20. Second-hand gifts are even better than the new ones.
  • Feel free to give to charity in my name. I like Special Effect, but go wild.
  • Vegan-friendly chocolate (80-90%) is always a good save idea.
Some other notes:
  • Turning up to our house doesn’t need gifts. If you are late because you stopped to buy gifts then you have cataostrophically misunderstood my value system.
  • If you are in any way stressed about getting a gift for me, then stop. I don’t want you to be stressed. Give me the gift of you being unstressed. Get yourself a gift. (If you are in any way stressed about getting a gift for anyone, then you aren’t getting a gift – you are trying to swap something physical for some form of acceptance or approval).